I Am Man! Hear Me Roar!! at 7:01 PM

Just got done watching an interesting documentary about what it means to be masculine, specifically what it means to be gay and masculine. In the straight world guys are given their "man card". They can be scrawny, timid, and everything not manly, but they get a free pass because they're straight. Gay guys just have to work a little harder at proving their worth as a man. Even in the community, "fem guys" are looked down at more often times than not. No jock or gym rat is going to be called a fag, no matter who they sleep with.

I have a working theory as to why many, not all but many, of the breeders that are uncomfortable with gays are the way they are. To them we question what it means to be a man. They see the men who fulfill the fem stereotypes and don't act the way a man should act. These guys bring in to question what a man truly is and how he should act; therefore they are seen as dangerous to the established male role. To sleep with another man is to be less of a man and more of a woman. To the straight world, gay men are giving up their power as a man and taking up the role of a woman. They are less of a man and in turn worth less than their straight counterparts.

On of my best friends used to joke with me that I was "such a girl". He would hurt my feelings, I would be sensitive and he would reply "stop being such a girl." He did this around one of our mutual friends, a woman, one day. She didn't really take notice until I pointed something out to her. He was intending to insult me by calling me a girl. To him, being a girl was a put down. It was demeaning and something less than being a man. She quickly took offense, as she should of to begin with.

Sissy, pussy, fairy, queen. All insults thrown at gays with feminine undertones to them. Why do they qualify as insults? Because they are targeted at men who are seen as acting like women or below the standards set to be masculine. Lesbians don't seem to suffer the same issue. In fact many butch women are celebrated in their communities.

Just random pondering...