I was trying to go to sleep, totally exhausted. Was almost gone when my boyfriend at the time asked if I was awake. Always seemed like a stupid question to me. "Are you awake?" "No, I talk in my sleep." He kind of hesitates; "Can I ask you a question?" Without even thinking, I responded in my typical sarcastic way, "As long as you don't ask me to marry you, yeah what is it?" There's a pause. (Oh Fuck) Then he tells me not to look in the nightstand drawer, where he hid the ring. I calmly get up, walk to the bathroom, lock the door, and proceed to have what I only can describe as a slight panic attack on the tile floor. WTF! Who proposes after six months? The relationship quickly went downhill after that. It's kind of hard to keep up a relationship when you know the other person is constantly tinkering with a ring in their pocket.
I think about that night every time I hear about one of my old classmates getting hitched a few month after they change their relationship status to "in a relationship". Can we all just slow down a little, take some time, deal with these things with some levelheadedness? I have a few friends who did it the right way. Dated, got to know each other, didn't treat marriage as a trap to ensure someone never leaves you. Marriage is all fine and dandy, but really shouldn't be the "I'm bored, let's get married" alternative to dating.
Maybe it is an attempt to make a connection to parents. Single people don't have kids most of the time, but rather they fill that space with pets. They personify their pets and treat them as their children. I'm really not that bothered by this; if I could have a dog I would in a heartbeat and would probably treat him as my child. The problem is when they start comparing their animal to other people's children. Your cat will not grow up to drive, go to college, and generally be a productive member of society. You do not need to worry that your dog will fall into the wrong crowd. No your pet goldfish with his friendly personality and dashing good looks isn't falling behind in class or going through "a stage". I know they may feel like your child, but really they aren't exactly on the same level.
If I had a kid and someone compared them to their Great Dane I think I would nicely smile at them and nod my head as I thought "What the F#$#% are you talking about. At no time did my partner and I worry that our child had hookworms or flick them on their nose for begging at the table." I'm trying real hard to give pet owners some leeway here. But really I think people just put up with them out of consideration and a need to appear nicer than their thoughts really are. Do we really want children to be compared to animals, more than they already are?
When you use the term husband, your ignoring the fact that you can't actually get married. Your saying it doesn't matter what the government says, you aren't going to bother with that pesky step. Maybe your thinking, your being some kind of activist or pointing out how your partnership is just as valid as a marriage. It's not. You don't get the same rights, responsibilities, and respect. Don't get me wrong, I wish we could get married, but by ignoring the fact you aren't your ignoring the importance of fighting for that right.
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Got to the park way early Saturday. Walked around a little stopped by Austin Ventures and caught some of Balmorhea. Not my scene but good music. Saw Grace Potter and the Nocturnals. Had no clue who she was but will make a point to check her out. I guess I saw Lucero after her but don't remember at all. Maybe that says something about their show? Broken Bells were great. Not a real active performance but their music makes you drift off. Left them and caught the last half of XX. Never saw someone wale on a cymbal so hard. Managed to get front and center for Deadmau5. Damn! Best show of the year. Hour long set of awesome. Huge Rubix cube on stage, talking mouse head, deadmau5 ghost, glitches in computers, awesome crowd of people to party with. I left right after, I was so tired. Skipped MIA and Muse. Really didn't care enough.
Today, Sunday, was a more chill day. Nobody on the top of my list left to see. Started off with White Rabbit. They were great. Never heard them before but their lead played with Spoon during their set. New fan here. Listened to Foals from the back of the crowd. Then back front with Devendra Banhart. I could take him or leave him. Yeasayer was a great surprise. Nice dance music I've managed to miss. Then Flaming Lips. They aren't my style of music but have a reputation for putting on a great show. Was three people from the front. Held up the space ball :-) and saw a once in a lifetime...event..? It was something. Talking huge naked ladies, cannons with confetti, dancing fans in orange, and a huge gong. Saw a tiny bit of Cage the Elephant but they were terrible on stage. So I left. Again skipped the headliner, like last year. No interest in Eagles. :-/
So I'm home now. Burnt. My clothes smell like weed despite the fact I never touch the stuff. Plan on getting tickets next year, even if I have to go solo again. It's worth it. Besides, managed to see every show I wanted and get within a couple of yards of each one.
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