Grow A Pair at 9:28 AM

"Well it's your choice." "If you want to leave you can." "If you don't want to do this..."

How many times have you heard this toward the end of a relationship? The other person refuses to make a decision, determined to make you the one responsible for ending everything. They pick fights with you at every corner and get made when you deny them the argument. I've even know a guy to cheat, trying to force his bf into breaking up with him. WTF? It's like they have already given up on you and just can't find the courage to be the one to end it. You must be the one to walk away and then when you finally cave in they blame you for destroying what you had. Is this really the game that they want to play?

My favorite is when you actually do get broken up with and they then turn around and try to get you back. Not a few days or weeks down the road, but that same night. Why come running back to someone that is so willing to discard you and the relationship? Then they get upset when you refuse to be hurt again by them. It's baffling. Yeah I cared about you before, but you just broke up with me, that changes everything in a split second.

For me, once someone breaks up with me it's all different from that point on. I've gotten back with exes before, and sometimes it's been a good choice, but overall once the choice is made there is no going back. Some see a breakup as a bargaining tool. "We're in a fight? Well I'm breaking up with you, so there." Fights don't have to end in breakups. They're just an argument. But once those words are uttered it send a clear message. "I'm willing to give you up and willing to end our relationship at anytime." That's not the one I want. I want someone that would never think of ending our relationship. Someone that stands beside me even when we are yelling at each other and despite what is being said or what's going on, still cares for me and still feels strong in our relationship.

Grow a pair. Stand strong in a relationship and weather the storms, there will be a few in any pair's lives. When you do decide it's ending, don't make the other be the one to bare the burden. Finally, if you do take that step, live with your decision. You've broken what you had. Yes it can be glued back together but don't get mad when you find your alone.